To the Female Counterparts!

By: Mehnaz Farooque

In these times of terror, no I am not talking about the sudden Donald Trump invasion, I am talking about the issue that is as old as global warming..."Women's Equality". But hey don't think this is going to be yet another piece of the article stating the devastating plights of women under the social oppressions of the masculine force. Yes, we have read and written those many times that don't really seem to be reaching out to the grey cells of our male gender by any means. They just happen to meet the fate of some Facebook shares, that's all! But let's not go there.

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So yes, women find preconceptions not only from men but also from our breasted counterparts. Yes, the ones which we meet in our day to day lives. How many of us have not ill-spoken or prejudiced another lady?? I bet not many there.

And why not? On one side we are talking about feminism and women equality in a men's world, while on the other side women bitch about every woman they think is not " according to their rules". First of all, who actually makes these rules? And where's the effing rule book?

Okay coming to my topic. Refer to the points below that will show how we literally try to bring down one another. And you know what, we don't even need testosterone to do that!

 #1 A girl wearing clothes, unlike her neighbour.

 Neighbour: "Look at her. These type of girls are the reason that we feel unsafe at night.

Darling, your type of girl is the reason to bring false notions of "good girl". And about molesters? If churidars and saris could repel rapes, many victims would have been saved!

#2 A girl to another girl:

"You are going on for too many dates while you are not able to make any of them stay!" 

Maybe she doesn't want any of them to stay. Maybe she's just seeing around! Why is she answerable to the society or anyone for seeing people? And even if she can't make anyone stay, let her deal it in her own way!

So girls, if someone comes up with this query to you, just Shake it off, like Taylor Swift said.

 #3 A friendly advice from a married woman to a bachelor woman

"I used to be the same carefree woman before my marriage like you. But I have changed for the love of my husband; you'll also change. Now you're flying free but you'll have to enter the pinjra (cage) my bird!" (She smirked)

Okay, if you think marriage is a pinjra, I think you're living inside a bubble of apparent perfectionism where you're trying too hard to portray a perfect life. It's marriage, not a big boss house to feel like a jail!

 #4 The whatever Aunty to Moms

"Don't listen to her. Work will keep going, you try finding a suitable boy. Her time will otherwise fade away. Fix her before her wrinkles and grey hairs appear."

Aunty, please keep that nose on your dishes. You might not know but she prefers girls, not boys!

 #5 A mother in law stating, "My son could have found a better-looking girl."

So what will that do? Are you thinking of letting your daughter-in -law compete in a beauty pageant?? Or is it to showcase her in front of your equally narrow-minded mates?

 #6 A wife saying, "That wrecker stole my husband."

Honey, another woman and that home wrecking concept better suited to the 70's movies. Your husband wanted to get new actions in the bedroom. Accept it. 

#7 A friend at work stating,

"You know, stop wearing that jean. I heard people talking about you showing off your boy!"So the jean is raising eyebrows and "other" organs of the colleagues. Why didn't you think of telling those fashion cops to keep their ideas, well, to themselves?

#8 Some ladies gossiping

"She had a divorce and now she's staying alone in the flat. Who knows who comes and goes!"

To the curious ones, bedroom scenes, eh? What on earth does it matter to you? She being divorced and living alone, are her decisions. And about men coming and going out of her flat, well her single-hood or her physically desirable encounters are not anyone's but her dilemma.

Her blouse is too deep. She's way too extrovert. She married very late. She married very early. She didn't marry. She slept with many guys. She slept with many girls. Her bra strip is visible. She smokes. She drinks. She's a gold digger. She's got a bikini wax. She doesn't wax. She can't cook. She only knows how to cook. She thinks only about her career. She's wasting her time as a homemaker. Blah blah blah...

And all these mostly come from another woman. That's sad. We are women, I know we have to gossip. But don't degrade to the shallowness of reaching to someone's personal choices. If being a woman we're incapable of understanding the vulnerabilities, the hollowness, the wrong or right choices of other women, then we shouldn't be at all fighting against men's so-called regressive thinking. Let's progress; let's broaden our minds and be empathic and understanding towards each other. It's not like there's a sale of 50% and we have to fight and kill other women. It won't matter if we take signboards saying "women need justice"; we've got to be respectful of other's choices.

So my women folk, it's going to be starting from us to make the world a better place for us. Because, although we are not responsible for raping other women but somewhere down the line, we are responsible for dictating verdicts on other women- the female counterparts!